Karen Retardo Karen Retardo

Navigating Emotional Blocks through Inner Child Work

For the quietly strong, tender-hearted Filipino immigrant woman who is ready to come home to herself.

There are moments when we feel stuck—but not in a way that makes sense on paper.

We can list our accomplishments.
We’ve made it to America. Built careers. Maybe even sent money back home, raised children, or navigated life between two cultures with grace.

And yet…
There’s a heaviness.
An invisible wall that shows up when we try to speak up, set a boundary, or go after something just for us.

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Karen Retardo Karen Retardo

The Key to Getting Noticed at Work—Without Bragging

You’ve probably heard someone say this:

“I’ve been doing twice the work, training the new hires, covering extra shifts, fixing charting errors—and still, my supervisor doesn’t seem to notice. Meanwhile, someone else just says what they did and suddenly they’re being called a ‘strong leader.’ I don’t want to brag... but I also don’t want to be invisible.”

Ah yes. The classic quiet high achiever dilemma.

You do the work.
You do it well.
And you do it quietly—because you were raised to believe that if you just keep your head down and do your best, someone will eventually notice.

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Karen Retardo Karen Retardo

Vulnerability Is Perfect Protection

We’ve been taught that protection looks like steel. Like having the perfect comeback. Like guarding your heart with crossed arms, polite nods, and "I'm fine, really." Like staying small enough not to be seen, so no one can aim their arrows.

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Karen Retardo Karen Retardo

The Intergenerational Healing Power of Your Self-Advocacy

As Filipino immigrant women nurses, many of us were raised in households where silence was survival. Where being respectful often meant being quiet. Where our mothers and grandmothers held so much wisdom and strength, yet were rarely given the space to express what they needed.

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Karen Retardo Karen Retardo

The Cultural Roots of Your Self-Doubt (And How to Uproot Them)

She’s Filipino, immigrant, and brilliant—we were on Zoom during a session, and she said something I’d heard too many times to count:

“I feel like I should be more confident by now… but I still doubt myself. Even when I know I’m qualified.”

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Karen Retardo Karen Retardo

What Your Lola (Grandma) Never Told You About Setting Healthy Limits

Growing up in a Filipino household, those words echoed through my childhood like a daily prayer. My Lola believed kindness meant never saying "no." Generosity meant giving until you had nothing left to give. Family meant setting aside your own needs to ensure everyone else was comfortable.

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Karen Retardo Karen Retardo

Playing Big: How to Stop Holding Yourself Back and Step into Your True Power

I have a confession to make: I spent a good chunk of my life being perfectly comfortable in the background. Quiet. Safe. Invisible.

Not because I loved it there, mind you, but because stepping forward meant risking rejection, judgment, and—worst of all—attention.

If you're anything like me, you probably know exactly what I'm talking about.

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Karen Retardo Karen Retardo

Code-Switching Exhaustion? How to Be Authentic in America

You Don’t Need to Perform to Be Worthy

You were never meant to be a filtered version of yourself.

You are not “too much.” You are not “unprofessional.” You are not “other.”

You are powerful, layered, and real. And real is enough.

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Karen Retardo Karen Retardo

How My Father's Legacy Inspired Me to Empower Immigrant Women

Let me tell you about my father—a man whose stories are not just tales of the past but guiding lights for my present. His life was a testament to resilience, to making the most of every single day, even when the days were tough. He carried his wooden sandals in his hands on his way to school to save them from wearing out too quickly—a simple act that showed his deep understanding of preserving for the future. This image of him has always inspired me, especially in my mission to empower immigrant women to carve out a space for themselves in this world.

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